When love ends it is only painful or destructive if you let it be.
For me it nurtured growth and provided strength.
It may have ended, but you were the best that ever happened to me.
I am a new person, happier and stronger in spirit than I have ever been.
When love is a moment at hand, it is easy to let go and be happy. When love is a promise, a hope and a dream of a lifetime of happiness and togetherness, it is never easy.
ReplyDeleteWhat is "true love"? It really is that - the combination of two powerful words - true and love. If it is not 'true' it remains an imagination, a fluttering thought sunk deep inside the soul. And if the truth is that there is no love, the mind refuses the reality and throws itself back to the memories.
Each memory dies at the sounds of life around you and you know that you've been dreaming. The death of those memories is painful.
There are no happy endings. If your 'ending' was happy, I'm sure it didn't even start yet!
Ah, another poor soul with a broken heart.
ReplyDeleteIt did end for me. And no it was not happy.
But my memories were only good ones, and every plunge back to those memories makes me smile, not sad.
Im slightly offended that u have the nerve to tell me whether I felt real love or not. That u assume I can be happy because it wasnt real. I've been searching for 20years of my life, and I have found what was missing. It ended but it is not the end of love.
Im sad it ended, but I believe god provides only the best for us.
And when I find love again, I will love with a ferocity that will shake the world!
Why are you only 'slightly' offended? Why don't you feel like tearing the whole world apart when some stranger tells you that your love was not real? (Though I never said it)
ReplyDeleteI don't know what to make of this post. If you feel good about your lost love then you were obviously doing it right. Why did your love not last then?
Did that love make you stronger and "nurtured growth and provided strength" or the loss of it? If it was this love of yours doing wonders for you why did you ever leave it? Why did you not do anything that it takes to get that person back?
If this love of yours was your life then why are you still alive?!
In 5 lines you summarized love and loss?
ReplyDeleteI bet Rumi is happy that there's finally someone to replace him!
Who and what gives you the power to pass a verdict? To make an announcement and proclamation about how a man should love and how he should react at the loss of it?
Men, real men, love passionately and fight fiercely for their love! At one hand they have the power to burn down walls and at the same time the courage to wait an entire lifetime!
Wow, I rly rly like your comments!
ReplyDeleteIll try to reply all the questions.
My love is my own, I dont expect others to understand hence the offence is trivial.
My love lasts till now. It was her complicated relationship with her "friend" that did not permit it to continue. It was both the love and the loss that matured me. I am happy because I have faith in something that I thought did not exist before. I can obviously fight for her. I could pick a "cock fight" with the aforementioned "friend" but to lose him would pain her infinitely and I choose not to put her through that pain.
I am still alive because she lives, and she is doing ok. If we were meant to be Ive nothing to worry. Time will decide. We tend to be rash, but in time things turn out for the better.
In 5 lines I summarized a chapter of my love life. My personal take on love based on my experience. I agree, real men love passionately and fight fiercely for their love. If only it would not kill her to lose this friend, I would commit murder without hesitation. Therefore I have the courage to wait. I said it ended. For now. But its not over.
Again, I appreciate your comments. Refreshing take from a soulful person.
If it turns out she was not meant for me than all is well too. I have faith in love, and that is all that matters. Ive had my first love at this very very late age of 20. Hence it is only my second epiphany. I have yet much to learn.
ReplyDeleteIf that is the case, do not say that your love has ended. You loves lives in you. You are fighting for you love in your own way.
ReplyDeleteFrom what I could gather from your comments, you loved this girl before, today and always but she never really appreciated it 'because of this complicated relationship with her "friend"'. In that case, your situation is the same as before (am I right?) Nothing changed between the two of you. You still love her, she still does not!
Your love for her has never ended. And you are happy because you are still fighting for it and that is what keeps you alive.
And if I am wrong, if both of you were in a relationship and she left you for this 'complicated relationship with this friend' then I would say you are a brave man. I am not as brave. But, in my case there was no friend, there was no complicated relationship. There was just one fateful day which ended everything all of a sudden. Do you know how firecrackers burst? The fire causes the air inside them to expand very fast in no time and hence the explosion. It is the same with an accident - the impact causes a speeding vehicle to come to a sudden stop and that causes it to die!
One day, a couple of hours is all that it took for me. And, the fact that there was no other "friend" involved, the fact that I lost without a competition gives me no courage to fight!
oh yea..i LOVE reading both of ur comments..huhu.both of u portray a unique point of view..cant agree or disagree with either one of u..LOL
ReplyDeleteIts hard to explain, but in general both your assumptions are correct.
ReplyDeleteI can see how lost I would be in your situation, friend. Hang in there, pal. Sometimes if the relationship is overwhelming both sides need some time to reorientate their feelings. If what u have is true, you both will wind up stuck like magnets again. All the best. ^^
A promise, hope and a fragile prayer,
ReplyDeleteA whisper and a mist in the woods,
The slight touch of a fleeting dream.
One prayer, one whisper, one dream
And it escapes like sand in the fist.
So beautiful, and sad.
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